Furthermore, I experience life as a trans and gay person completely differently from an ally. We might be the same species, but my experience of oppression, as well as the oppression of other LGBTQ members is distinct from the privileged. My labels (what you call separation are important to me. I hardly care if I'm discouraging allies. If allies are offended by the idea that they aren't invited to the queer club on the basis of not being queer, they're pretty crappy allies.